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Happy people stand out in a crowd. |
What will it take for you to
finally be happy? When you get that next promotion; that new car; your dream
home? What about when you finally get to take that dream vacation to that far
away beach? Will you be happy then? Maybe when the kids grow up, go to college,
and get out of the house. Maybe that’s when happiness will happen. Do you have
these kinds of thoughts?
So many people make happiness an
unattainable object. “When x-y-z finally
happens, then I’ll be happy.” The trouble with that thinking is that it’s a
moving target. There is always the next challenge, the next promotion, a better
car, a bigger house. Another beach. If you are always waiting for something to
come along to make you happy, you will always be waiting.
Happiness is a state of mind; one
you can choose to live. If you want to be happy, all you need to do is decide to be happy. If you choose to be
unequivocally happy, from today on, you can be! Of course, we all have our
little ups and downs. Sometimes life is stressful, sometimes other people get
in our way, sometimes things are disappointing. But these are all emotions that
can be dealt with in a timely fashion, and then moved on from, returning to our
happiness homeostasis!
Scientists have studied happiness
(
check out this video of Shawn Achor, positive psychologist and author of the
book,
The Happiness Advantage) and they have found that happiness starts in the
mind. It truly is all about attitude. In fact, a direct correlation between
happiness and work performance has been discovered. Instead of waiting to be
successful in order to get happy, get happy so you can be successful!
I’m here to tell you today that
your happiness isn’t hinged on your success. In fact, if you continue to put
happiness on the other side of achievement, you will
never get there! I challenge you, reader, to choose happiness.
Success will come close behind. In his book,
The Happiness Advantage, Shawn
Achor talks about a few happiness habits you can start today that can help you
become happier:
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You can make the choice and take the action to become happier today! |
1. Each day take a couple of minutes
and write down three things you are grateful for. Research shows this will
significantly improve your optimism even 6 months later, just by focusing on
what is good in your life each day. Try to pick new things each day.
2. Double up on a great experience!
Your mind doesn’t know the difference between something you do and something you
think about. Take two minutes and write in great detail about a positive
experience you’ve have in the past 24 hours. By imagining it again, you get to
relive it and experience all those positive emotions all over again!
3. Exercise for 10-15 minutes a
day. The endorphins released by your body when you exercise are the world’s
greatest anti-depressant. So get moving and get happy!
4. Meditate for 2 minutes, focusing
on your breath going in and out. This takes some practice to sit quietly with
yourself and stop thinking, but keep trying - you can do it!
5. Send a quick email to a family
member, teammate, or friend, thanking them for their help and support. Sending
a letter of praise to someone not only makes their day - it increases your
perception of social support, which is one of the greatest predictors of
happiness!
Pick one of these tasks and try to
implement it into a daily routine. They each take just a few minutes a day. It takes 21 days to make a habit. As you go
through this process, watch your happiness increase; and with it your
productivity and your performance.
I’m doing the daily gratitude, and
I intend to start journaling my positive experiences soon. Which one will you
try? I’d love to hear in the comments!